If you need a sign, here it is: It is not your responsibility to take of everyone and yourself all at the same time.
Healer is defined as someone who mends or repairs something. These individuals often carry significant weight of the stories they hear, the tragedies they see and the experiences they have with strangers on their worst day. They are often professionals and carry more than most.
The expectation maintains that identified healers and supporters can care and heal themselves or that they have more support to do so. But this assumption is unfounded. Some of the strongest healers struggle with finding their own personal support and feel isolated when emptying their cup to regularly serve others.
Healers feel extreme levels of anxiety and frustration as they are often perfectionists in their work and struggle with not meeting the standards they set for themselves.
These individuals also have a loud inner critic (that voice pushing you in your mind). This voice can be brutal and set unrealistic expectations. This critic can push you to exhaustion or debilitation and they have no boundaries with telling you how you're never doing enough.
Sleepless nights. Recurring negative thoughts. Obsessions about completing tasks and feeling constantly overwhelmed is affecting the work you do and has begun to overflow into your personal life and time. You make lists, they get partially completed and then they don't. There is always something to complete and never time to take a break. Even when you begin to stop, to engage in self-care your mind is racing with all the things you need to do and should be doing. You do not come first very often.
You know you need a change, but you're not sure where to begin. You may be nervous seeking out help and vulnerable doing so. You may feel guilty for seeking your own support and feel like you can overcome on your own.
I am here to tell you that there needs to be space for you.
Space to heal and process.
Space to be and release, so you can feel better and do better.
Acknowledging that a therapist could benefit you takes incredible strength. It will be the best investment that you make for yourself.
I’m here to tell you what is coming is so much better than what has gone.